Going Back In Time, What Katrina Johnson Would Say To Her Younger Self
Mo asks Katrina Johnson: If you could tape a message to your younger self about business development, what would it say? It would simply be one thing: Learn to walk the dog. When someone walks a dog, we assume that the person is in control, but...
Mo asks Katrina Johnson: If you could tape a message to your younger self about business development, what would it say?
It would simply be one thing: Learn to walk the dog.
When someone walks a dog, we assume that the person is in control, but that’s not always the case. Our brains work in a similar way.
The dogwalker is the prefrontal cortex, and the dog is the limbic system that responds and detects threats. The big question is who is in control?
The truth is that the dog is in control most of the time. Everytime we stick to known associates instead of unknown prospects, or when we expect every email to get a response, the dog is in control.
The sooner you can learn to walk the dog, the sooner you get to do the work you care about on your own terms.
Even with the best tools and strategies at our disposal, most of the time we are only half as effective as we could be because we are being dragged around by our limbic system.
It’s not an issue of ego, as much as it is the part of your brain that has evolved to perceive threats. Threats aren’t always tigers, they can also be getting rejected, feeling embarrassed, or losing status. The first job is to get out of your own way so the tools and strategies can do the work.
Katrina focuses on awareness first about her emotions and experiences. A quick, simple label can be very effective in reducing the limbic system’s response. Reframing it and considering other reasons something may or may not have happened makes it less emotional.
Give your emotions context, label them, and reframe them. The more you do it, the better you will get at it. This is a foundational skill in business development.